Lot of men want to know "how to stop my wife from
leaving" or "how to win my wife back after hurting
her" but they don't take it seriously until she
actually leaves.
Well, here you are reading this and chances are
that you are now separated, living in different
physical places.
What now?
I am going to introduce you to a concept that if
you master, the probability of your wife moving
back (or you moving back to her) will skyrocket ten
fold.
Seriously.
The amount of husbands that The Bulletproof
Husband has helped just with this one
concept is outrageously high!
MANAGEMENT OF THE RELATIONSHIP
First, you need to understand that the masculine
and feminine DO NOT OPERATE THE SAME WAY.
They are two very different beasts and each one of
them have specific roles for the relationship.
Management of the relationship is part of the
feminine. It is the feminine's role and it includes
anything and everything that has to do with the
relationship between you and her.
She manages this relationship and this includes the
degree of:
- Communication between the two of you
- Intimacy between the two of you
- Physical space between the two of you
The only thing that comes before this concept are
your terms which is a whole other topic. Just know
for now that the difference between enabling your
wife and not enabling your wife are your terms.
So, when your wife wants to separate from you, what
she is doing is managing the relationship and
telling you that "what our relationship needs now
is physical separation".
The more you get upset or bent out of shape about
this, the worse it gets.
The more you cooperate with her efforts to manage
the relationship towards separation, the better it
will get.
Sounds counterintuitive I know, but these are the
facts of the matter like it or not. And we have
thousands of case studies to prove both sides.
Now, once you get rid of desperation and focus the
time on transforming yourself (being responsible
for YOUR part in why the relationship is failing
and improving those areas), it will allow
immediately noticeable shifts.
This means, even when you are not communicating
often, if between each communication you are
implementing tools to demonstrate the new version
of you it will create curiosity for her.
The requirement for this is that you are
transforming yourself because you no longer
tolerate the old version of you and NOT because you
want to please her.
From this context, genuine changes occur and the
way you used to communicate, react and behave all
of a sudden starts to shift. When she tests you and
does the things that used to trigger you but they
no longer do, it causes confusion and curiosity for
her.
She will want to know more, understand it better
and it will even get her pissed because with each
communication she is trying to gather evidence that
her decision to leave you was the right one.
However, you are now starting to make this very
difficult for her because the evidence is turning
out to be the contrary - that it might have been a
bad decision.
So, she wants to continue testing you which leads
to more time together and more communication
naturally.
When you capitalize on this and continue to control
the areas you can control - the work on yourself -
passing these tests becomes easy because you now
know what is happening and why she is doing what
she's doing.
Also, when the time between two communications is
longer, the contrast of your changes in each
interaction is more vivid and eye opening for her.
If you live together with your wife, the changes
are also noticed but at smaller degrees leading to
a similar time frame of reconciliation when you
compile these.
Conclusion is that when you are consistently using
the tools that have proven to work over a period of
time, then whether you're separated or not becomes
absolutely irrelevant.
Being separated or living together makes no
difference in how fast you get your wife back.
Using the tools and having a structure and
framework to follow regardless of circumstances
does make a huge difference in how fast you get
your wife back.
So focus on what makes a difference and avoid the
things that do not move the needle for you.
How to Get your Wife Back after Separation
Rebuilding Trust and Connection
The starting point of avoiding your wife leaving you or wining her back after separation is to know the reasons of the discord. It requires profound introspection and admitting your responsibility in what went wrong. Be these a betrayal of trust, an inadequate communication, or unfulfilled emotional requirements, their identification is indispensable.
Communicating Openly and Honestly
The open and truthful communication is the main feature of the healthy relationship. The first step that needs to be taken if you want to “get my wife back after separation” is to start conducting conversations where there is no blaming. Tell her how you feel, listen to her, and talk about the changes you both can make together in the relationship.
Demonstrating Change Through Actions
Words are not all and enough to win the trust and love of your wife. It is important to demonstrate through your deeds that you are dedicated to bringing about actual changes. It also might mean, that you could seek counseling, acquire new lifestyle habits, or try to strengthen the emotional bonding with her.
Rekindling Romance and Intimacy
Recreation of the romantic and intimate sides of your relationship is also important. Begin with some small acts of love, schedule special dates, or go back to places that have special meanings. Making your wife feel that she is important and prized might rekindle the passion between you two.
Conclusion: A New Beginning for Both of Us
Getting your wife back after separation or stopping her from leaving is a process of healing and developing. It takes patience, commitment, and an ability to change and develop as one. Through concentrating on trust restoration, communication improvement, change presentation, and relationship maintenance you may pave the way for a new, better stage of your relationship.
