Needing Her Vs. Wanting Her – Road to Self-Sufficiency
Men, welcome back to yet another insightful blog from John and Endre. This week you need to be honest with yourself..do you need your woman more than you want her?
Let us explain that question a little bit. In some cases, perhaps not yours, men "need" their woman and often times they are not aware of that or do not admit it. Their need arises out of a lack of completeness as a man.
A man may need his woman to feel good about himself. or because she is a better income generator and without her financial contribution, he would be homeless rather than living in a penthouse – and the list goes on.
We are not suggesting that a woman should not be contributing to your life or lifestyle. What we are saying is that in the five following areas of your life, you should be complete, established, in control, not dependent on her for how you are as a man:
- Physically
- Mentally
- Emotionally
- Financially
- Spiritually.
"Needing her more than you want her is a reflection of you as a man".
So here is how you are going to measure where you are at in your status of being a complete man:
- Write out on a sheet of paper, the five headings above
- Then, think about each one and how much you depend on her in those areas
- Rate yourself from 1 to 10, where 1 indicates that you do not rely on her at all and 10 being, if she walked out of your life you would be an emotionally broke wreck who would lose all sense of himself as a man!
Here is the beauty of it, awareness is more than half the battle because there are things you know you know, then there are things you know you don’t know and then there are things you don’t know that you don’t know (in other words, not aware of).
It is far easier to do something about things in your life that you are aware of than things you are not aware of.
Post your results on The Bulletproof Husband™ Network Private Facebook Group and we can start working together on this.
It is not rocket science men, just do the simple things, really, really well!
Cheers,
John
The Bulletproof Husband™ Team
Endre Gabori
Master Coach
Endre created The Bulletproof Husband™ (TBH) after witnessing dozens of men lose their marriage time and time again because they did not have the sufficient resources or tools to keep it together.